Do I have OCD?

It is currently ‘in vogue’ to call your tidy, neat checking behaviour OCD. This I have to say is something real OCD sufferers find very irritating and dismissing of the true disabling extent of the condition.

To add to the confusion there is another similar named personality disorder that often gets missed diagnosed as OCD. Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD) is a behaviour condition which enables the effected person to stay in control of their surroundings.  People with OCPD really like their obsessive tidiness or inflexible behaviours as it gives them a feeling of satisfaction and control. So the way to distinguish if you are suffering from OCPD or OCD is to ask yourself. Do I enjoy and receive satisfaction from my behaviours or do I have to do them as a result of the feared consequences if I don’t? People who experience OCD generally hate having to do their compulsions/ behaviours but perform them to stop anything terrible from happening. People with OCPD like doing their compulsions/behaviours because it gives them a sense of control.

Here is a check list of symptoms that may enable you to distinguish if you have OCD or just some traits of OCD.

·         Do your compulsions/rituals take up more than an hour a day and they are distressing to you?

·         If you don’t perform your rituals do you feel anxious that something terrible may happen?

·         Are you overly concerned about safety to yourself and or others?

·         Do you check a lot then doubt that you have checked properly?

·         Do you fear causing any harm to innocent people?

·         Do you fear losing control and acting out something that is completely abhorrent and objectionable to you?

·         Do you feel an overriding sense of duty to keep others safe?

·         Do you worry about losing your mind?

·         Do you fear being around people, children, animals in fear that you may lose control and act out on an intrusive thought or feeling?

·          Do you question and doubt your own sexuality?

·         Do you experience unfounded doubts about your partner?

·         Do you overanalyse people and situations and find it hard to move on?

·         Do you find yourself locked into a ruminative state, which continues to cause distress, fear, doubt and anxiousness?

·         Do you avoid, people, places and things that remind you of something you fear?

·          Do you have lucky or unlucky numbers, words, images, clothes, days, colours etc

·         Do you giving meaning to meaningless things?

·         Do you fear for your health and or the health of your loved ones?

·         Do you find it hard to discard what others perceive as junk?

·         Do you have thoughts, ideas, and doubts about having committed a crime without a clear memory and no evidence to support it?

·         Do you have an exaggerated fear of foods, chemicals, dirt, bodily fluids, medication and alcohol?

If you have answered yes to any of the above and it takes up more than an hour of your day and you are very distressed by it, then it likely that you may be suffering from OCD. To get a formal diagnosis you must see a mental health expert via your doctor like a psychologist or psychiatrist who will do a further examination of your presenting situation.

I would also like to add, although you may be scared and shamed by your thoughts, feelings and experience, please don’t be. The above questions are typical to the disorder and are neither exhaustive nor complete. Real mental health experts understand OCD and will not judge you by your intrusions. They understand the thoughts, images and ideas are symptoms of your condition, not you. The most important thing is to recognise the condition as a disorder which is both treatable and manageable. The sooner you reach out for help the sooner you will be on the road to recovery.  

Understanding OCD

Relationship OCD

When you first fall in love it can feel all-consuming and even obsessive. You think about your loved one all the time, wondering what they are doing and feeling. You dream about what exciting things you could be doing together. You can’t wait to see them again. You are mindfully aware of them in everything you do.

However like any new relationship over time the excitement burns off as you become more settled with one another. It then gradually nestles into a more relaxed, calmer and secure natural place of being. But with people who experience Relationship OCD (ROCD) their fear responses do not switch off. They develop a hyper-alertness around their partner and start to doubt their own security. Bottom line the more they care the more obsessive they become.

Do you have Relationship OCD?

·         Do you obsessive about your partner’s previous intimacies and relationships?

·         Do you constantly question their whereabouts or their love for you?

·         Do you obsess about their day to day activities and grill them when you next see them?

·         Do you find yourself locked on to your partners past and find it hard to accept?

·         Do you avoid places, people and anything that could be associated to your partners past in fear that it will evoke an obsessive thought in you?

·         Do you constantly worry that he/she is not the one?

·          Do you fear he/she may not love you, even though there is no evidence to support this?

·         Do you ask for continuous reassurance from your partner that he/she really loves you?

·         Do you repeatedly check that you love your partner?

·         Do you seek constant reassurance from others that your relationship is right?

·         Is your day consumed with wondering what your partner is doing and find it hard to concentrate on anything else?

·         Do you insist that you communicate with your partner several times a day; if a communication is missed you obsess and worry and think the worse?

·         Do you worry you may not love your partner or find him/her attractive anymore?

·         Do you imagine lots of worrisome scenarios about your partner that has no relevance to any facts?

 

Of course the above are normal thought processes which we can all experience from time to time. However if they are persistent and are causing you much distress and fear and consume much of your time each day,  then you may well be experiencing Relationship OCD.